LETTER TO MY UNBORN CHILD - A PARENTAL GUIDE

A letter to my unborn child is a piece written to engage the parent’s involvement in learning the tricks to encounter the child’s behavioural pattern and relate it to that of the parent. This also makes way for the parent to make adjustments where necessary to the child’s exhibited characteristics.

Hereditary according to science entails that your behavior , life style, pattern of living, actions, likes or dislike (optional) and generally everything about the parent is passed unto the child/children.
The genes are broken down into the male and female [husband and wife]; part of each is inherited by the child depending on how strong the gene of each parent proves.  In this situation, the child is inherent to either the mother or the father in characteristics. Most times, the child tends to take to each of the parent. 

Nevertheless, this piece is something obscure, informative and unusual. Its thought is quite surprising and impossible but looking at it from a different angle, it is a future preparation. This is a platform for organizing and foreseeing the circumstance which will make you gain control over your child/children.
Categorically, it is a behavioral manual that will checkmate, guide and give you control over how to balance the behavior and characteristics of your ward.

It will serve as an elimination of the bad habits, patterns, activities, engagements and morals you [parent] exhibited while growing up from your child. Until puberty, it is a general phenomenon that no one has control over their behavior. Our parents are there to watch us grow. However, the zeal to explore the lively activities of life and gain experiences is unquenchable. That’s juvenile delinquency.
Therefore, this platform serves as a reminder to the parent where he/she put down his/her conscious/unconscious and actual way of life [good, bad and ugly] in a book for it to serve the purpose of reconstructuring the child/children. 

                         There’s a saying “write the vision and make it plain” …………

There are certainties, where the parent might not necessarily remember or try to put down all their memories during the young days but realistically, the memories should be there because it is your life and your past.
This is the more reason as an individual, you should at some point; write down in a note or diary your good, bad and ugly behaviours, moments and encounters while growing up so as to use it for future references. In this case, it will be helpful when you become a parent so it can serve as a manual to guide your child whenever you notice frivolities and impending disastrous act.

Irrespective of putting down your past life, it does not mean the child won’t be allowed to express themselves. NO. It should serve as a balance to measure up what/what not they can do. Everybody has that one behavior that is not hereditary; it might be learned or copied from somewhere or decided on personal grounds. Majorly, your aim is to correct the bad aspect of the child’s behavior, a time when the child wants to exhibit that bad part of your old life. This will also help you, the parent to relate your behavior to that of your child using it as a comparison to weigh in stressful moments and bad/difficult times.

As a parent, know that whatever you put down should be a true reflection of what you underwent. Do not write under assumption neither should you write a corrective pattern to each phase of your past. You will proffer corrections from what you see about your child.

Your piece should not be a punishment book but a mini-manual to guide your child into becoming a better person in the future. It is a piece to avoid parental mistakes and to make adjustments starting with your child so they don’t repeat the same mistake you made. 

Inorder to make this your success story, your child should not have access to it. It should be your little secret book. By doing this, you will have a better understanding of your child and gain a strong hold of the parent-child relationship. 

A quick preview of what it should look like:

 

  

Dear Child;

This is my past.

Most times, I just see myself getting angry over nothing. This subconsciously happens to me. There are times I needed to be left alone and be all by myself. I love watching football games on T.V. I was generally a football fan. I was always strong-willed and nobody’s opinion interested me, I always did what I wanted. I was a phone and internet freak. I was a nuisance and very garrulous. I hardly do anything at home when I get glued to the TV set.
I was actually a snub, never gave two sh*ts about people. Hard-hearted and was never interested about people’s welfare. I hardly study or read my books.
I was a stingy fellow, never liked sharing with people. I hate people waking me up when asleep.
I respected the golden rule and therefore I hated it when people go against me. I’m not good at keeping friends. I hated house chores. Most times I get tired of going to church.
I was proud and pompous. Lover of good music. I was too lazy to wash my own clothes.

Yours Sincerely.

The list continues depending on how much flaws you had during your past days.  Forget the letter pattern but this is what is required of you as a parent. Applying force in trying to change your past from your child will not work out-rightly. It should be a gradual process.  Most parent cry and even feel regret when they see their child exhibiting their bad behaviors. It should be your personal assignment and the change you require for your child begins with you.  

By Williams Prince Chibuike 

Tags: Education, Moral, Parental Guide



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